Bribes. Most people would consider them morally objectionable. In some third-world countries, they are simply the norm in the business world. And this weekend, such was the case at my home. Of course, we prefer to use the euphamisms “incentives” or “rewards,” but the result is the same — an attempt to get compliance from the kids.
After their regular chores on Saturday, I bribed the kids with a trip to Boondock’s Fun Center if they would do some extra work in the yard. So we took the kids there after lots of leaf raking and putting up the Christmas lights (yes, it’s early, but we wanted to take advantage of the good weather — just know that while the lights are on the house, they won’t be actually turned on until after Thanksgiving!)
We enjoyed the go-carts as you can see from the little video below, and then we all participated in 18 holes of mini-golf (the kids are getting better and more coordinated, but it’s still a bit aggravating to play with them because they’re so slow.) Overall, we had a great time together.
So how do you motivate your children? How do you develop a sense of fun without giving them a sense of entitlement, like they deserve to be rewarded for everything they do? Don’t some tasks need to be done without rewards (apart from the satisfaction that comes from the sense of accomplishment they get)? What’s the right balance?